If things get out of hand, it's good
to have a PLAN!
- Your computer stores copies of
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WHEN A FIGHT BREAKS OUT...
- Move away from the kitchen,
bathroom or anyplace where there are dangerous sharp objects.
- If there are firearms in your home, lock them up.
- Always keep a bag packed & ready.
- Plan the easiest escape.
Decide on a door or window to exit quickly and safely.
- Find a neighbor, friend, or
family member you can trust to help you and your children. Ask them to
call the police if they hear a disturbance. Come up with a code word to
use with them if you need the police.
- Know where you would go to be safe if you need to leave, even if
you don't really think you need to.
Remember that noone deserves to be abused. It's not your fault!
YOU DECIDE TO LEAVE YOUR PARTNER, PLAN FOR SAFETY!!
- Every situation is different. Contact us for information on how
to plan for safety. Leaving may be risky for your children.
- Put some money away. Even if you only save a little bit each
week, you need to have some money for yourself. Open an account under
- Make copies of keys and important papers and leave them with a
friend, neighbor, or church. Some important items to have: birth
certificates, legal papers, a little money, special toys.
- Get an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra
clothes and some money to a trusted neighbor in case you have to leave
Remember that the safety of you and your children comes first!
TO STAY SAFE ON YOUR OWN?
- Change the locks on your doors.
- Learn about your legal rights. If you have legal papers to
protect you, keep them with you at all times.
- Tell neighbors, friends, landlords or coworkers that your
partner no longer lives with you. Keep a safety plan for coming and
going, and share it with people you trust. Teach your children the
- If you former partner is dangerous, find someone at work to
tell. Show a picture and ask them to call 911 if your former partner
- If you need other ideas or a local referral, please call us!
TO TAKE WITH YOU:
___ Birth certificate(s)
___ Driver's License/ Military ID
___ Social Security Card(s)
___ Insurance documents
___ Money/credit cards
___ Checkbooks, bankbooks
___ Savings bonds
___ Food stamps
___ Copy of your Order of Protection
___ Car registration/ insurance papers
___ Copy of lease/ deed to home
___ Medical and school records
___ Separation/ custody papers
___ Power of attorney/will
___ Medications, prescriptions
___ Keys to home and vehicles
___ Address book/ telephone cards
(Taken from http://www.asafeplaceforhelp.org/safetyplan.html)
YOU HAVE LEFT:
- Explain your safety plan to your children.
- Keep your Order of Protection with you at all times.
- Give copies of your Order of Protection to your landlord, the
police department, your children's school, your employer, your child's
daycare, your employer, and your neighbors.
- Tell your child(ren)'s school who has permission to pick up your
- Have your telephone calls screened at work.
- Have someone walk you to your car as much as possible.
- Ask neighbors to call the police if they see your abuser
nearby. Explain the Order of Protection to them, and show them photos
of your abuser.
- Change your locks.
- If communication between you and your abuser is necessary, meet
in a public place. If you need to exchange children or if your abuser
has visitation rights, arrange appointments at Family
Connection Safe Visitation Center.
Domestic Violence Checklist: Threat Assessment
All reports of
threatening or violent conduct should be taken seriously and evaluated.
While the method of evaluation,
screening and assessment will vary depending upon the size of the
business and security operation as well as the nature and severity of
the threat, the list below is a good guideline.
If an associate
self-discloses domestic violence, and it appears that they may be in
immediate danger, call 911. If the danger is present, but not urgent, a
threat assessment should take place. A company must decide who should
conduct the assessment whether it be Security, an HR representative, or a
manager. Be sure to let the employee know that only certain information
will be shared with HR, Security and other key people within the
organization to ensure his or her safety.
Call 911 if you are
ever in immediate danger.
- What is the situation?
Please explain the details.
- Has your significant other made any threats?
- What type of abuse have you been exposed to?
- Have there been any harassing phone calls?
- Have there been any harassing phone mail messages?
- If so, have they been deleted?
(Explain how the company can help screen and/or record them).
- Are your co-workers aware of the situation?
- If so, who are they and what information has been given to
- Does your significant other know where you work? Has he/she
visited the facility in the past?
- Does your significant other have a history of violence?
- If so, please explain each situation.
- Do you think you or others are in danger here? (The victim knows
best what the abuser is capable of).
- Does your significant other posses any type of Firearms or
- If so, are they registered?
- Please describe the type (Handgun, shotgun, assault rifle,
- Are you planning to leave the relationship?
- Have you contacted the EAP or a domestic violence program in the
- Can I help you gather or provide you with the numbers of local
domestic violence resources?
- Have you sought out any medical attention?
- Has a report been filed with the Police?
- If so, please provide a copy of the report
- Has an order of protection been issued?
- If so, please provide us with a copy.
- If not, will one be filed?
- Can you provide us with a description and current picture of the
- What is your need for safety NOW?
- Do you need time off to attend court?
- Do you need more extended leave to find safe housing or
address other safety concerns?
- Do you need time off or flexible hours to arrange for
- Do you need to be escorted to and from your car/public
- Do you need to change your hours or location?
- Do you have the confidential security hotline handy?
- Do you have a safety plan?
- If not, it would be a good idea to work with a domestic
violence counselor to create one.
- Do you feel safe at work? Has your significant
other/spouse/partner (use the term the victim uses) made any threats,
specifically to try to hurt you at work?
At this point, if there is no
threat to the safety of the victim at work, offer referrals to local DV
counselors and/or the Employee Assistance Program.
Each case is different and
responses must be tailored to the circumstances. When the threat
assessment process determines that a high level of planning or response
is needed, the more intensive step of gathering the Domestic Violence
Response Team should be taken. Always consult your security department,
the police or other experts to help you make an accurate threat
assessment (Taken from http://www.safeatworkcoalition.org/workplacepolicy/dvchecklist.htm
YOU ARE IN DANGER:
- Call 911
- Call your local Domestic Violence Hotline in
Dickinson, ND (701-225-4506)
- Call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE
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