Safety Tips

If things get out of hand, it's good to have a PLAN!



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  • Move away from the kitchen, bathroom or anyplace where there are dangerous sharp objects.
  • If there are firearms in your home, lock them up.
  • Always keep a bag packed & ready.
  • Plan the easiest escape.  Decide on a door or window to exit quickly and safely.
  • Find a neighbor, friend, or family member you can trust to help you and your children.  Ask them to call the police if they hear a disturbance.  Come up with a code word to use with them if you need the police.
  • Know where you would go to be safe if you need to leave, even if you don't really think you need to.

 Remember that noone deserves to be abused.  It's not your fault!


  • Every situation is different.  Contact us for information on how to plan for safety. Leaving may be risky for your children.
  • Put some money away.  Even if you only save a little bit each week, you need to have some money for yourself.  Open an account under your name.
  • Make copies of keys and important papers and leave them with a friend, neighbor, or church.  Some important items to have: birth certificates, legal papers, a little money, special toys.
  • Get an extra set of keys, copies of important documents, extra clothes and some money to a trusted neighbor in case you have to leave quickly.

Remember that the safety of you and your children comes first!


  • Change the locks on your doors.
  • Learn about your legal rights.  If you have legal papers to protect you, keep them with you at all times.
  • Tell neighbors, friends, landlords or coworkers that your partner no longer lives with you.  Keep a safety plan for coming and going, and share it with people you trust.  Teach your children the safety plan.
  • If you former partner is dangerous, find someone at work to tell.  Show a picture and ask them to call 911 if your former partner comes around.
  • If you need other ideas or a local referral, please call us!



___ Birth certificate(s)

___ Driver's License/ Military ID
___ Social Security Card(s)
___ Passport(s)
___ Insurance documents


___ Money/credit cards

___ Checkbooks, bankbooks
___ Savings bonds
___ Food stamps

Legal Papers:

___ Copy of your Order of Protection

___ Car registration/ insurance papers
___ Copy of lease/ deed to home
___ Medical and school records
___ Separation/ custody papers
___ Power of attorney/will


___ Medications, prescriptions

___ Keys to home and vehicles
___ Address book/ telephone cards
___ Clothes

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  • Explain your safety plan to your children.
  • Keep your Order of Protection with you at all times.
  • Give copies of your Order of Protection to your landlord, the police department, your children's school, your employer, your child's daycare, your employer, and your neighbors.
  • Tell your child(ren)'s school who has permission to pick up your children.
  • Have your telephone calls screened at work.
  • Have someone walk you to your car as much as possible.
  • Ask neighbors to call the police if they see your abuser nearby.  Explain the Order of Protection to them, and show them photos of your abuser.
  • Change your locks.
  • If communication between you and your abuser is necessary, meet in a public place.  If you need to exchange children or if your abuser has visitation rights, arrange appointments at Family Connection Safe Visitation Center.


Domestic Violence Checklist: Threat Assessment

All reports of threatening or violent conduct should be taken seriously and evaluated.

While the method of evaluation, screening and assessment will vary depending upon the size of the business and security operation as well as the nature and severity of the threat, the list below is a good guideline.

If an associate self-discloses domestic violence, and it appears that they may be in immediate danger, call 911. If the danger is present, but not urgent, a threat assessment should take place. A company must decide who should conduct the assessment whether it be Security, an HR representative, or a manager. Be sure to let the employee know that only certain information will be shared with HR, Security and other key people within the organization to ensure his or her safety.

Call 911 if you are ever in immediate danger.

  1. What is the situation? Please explain the details.  
  2. Has your significant other made any threats?
  3. What type of abuse have you been exposed to?
  4. Have there been any harassing phone calls?
  5. Have there been any harassing phone mail messages?
    1. If so, have they been deleted?
      (Explain how the company can help screen and/or record them).
  6. Are your co-workers aware of the situation?
    1. If so, who are they and what information has been given to them?
  7. Does your significant other know where you work? Has he/she visited the facility in the past?
  8. Does your significant other have a history of violence?
    1. If so, please explain each situation.
  9. Do you think you or others are in danger here? (The victim knows best what the abuser is capable of).
  10. Does your significant other posses any type of Firearms or weapons?
    1. If so, are they registered?
    2. Please describe the type (Handgun, shotgun, assault rifle, etc).
  11. Are you planning to leave the relationship?
  12. Have you contacted the EAP or a domestic violence program in the community?
  13. Can I help you gather or provide you with the numbers of local domestic violence resources?
  14. Have you sought out any medical attention?
  15. Has a report been filed with the Police?
    1. If so, please provide a copy of the report
  16. Has an order of protection been issued?
    1. If so, please provide us with a copy.
    2. If not, will one be filed?
  17. Can you provide us with a description and current picture of the abuser?
  18. What is your need for safety NOW?
    1. Do you need time off to attend court?
    2. Do you need more extended leave to find safe housing or address other safety concerns?
    3. Do you need time off or flexible hours to arrange for childcare?
    4. Do you need to be escorted to and from your car/public transportation?
    5. Do you need to change your hours or location?
    6. Do you have the confidential security hotline handy?
  19. Do you have a safety plan?
    1. If not, it would be a good idea to work with a domestic violence counselor to create one.
  20. Do you feel safe at work? Has your significant other/spouse/partner (use the term the victim uses) made any threats, specifically to try to hurt you at work?

At this point, if there is no threat to the safety of the victim at work, offer referrals to local DV counselors and/or the Employee Assistance Program.

Each case is different and responses must be tailored to the circumstances. When the threat assessment process determines that a high level of planning or response is needed, the more intensive step of gathering the Domestic Violence Response Team should be taken. Always consult your security department, the police or other experts to help you make an accurate threat assessment (Taken from ).


  • Call 911
  • Call your local Domestic Violence Hotline in Dickinson, ND (701-225-4506)
  • Call National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE